The self-help genre often sinks to tip-dispensing.
Want to make more money? Hundreds of bloggers will give you quick tips for that.
Want to boost your productivity? Tip-based books for that abound.
Want to attract a lover? Tips for that are all over the Web.
Tips satisfy our desire for easy wins and quick results. But what about the long-term?
“Now, don’t get me wrong,” Annie Murphy Paul writes in The Tyranny of Tips. “Sometimes a tip — the right bit of information at the right time — is a lifesaver.” More often, however, tips “skim lightly across the surface of our attention and then disappear.”
Zinsser’s reply: “I don’t do tips”:
Tips can make someone a better writer but not necessarily a good writer. That’s a larger package — a matter of character. Golfing is more than keeping the left arm straight. Every good golfer is a complex engine that runs on ability, ego, determination, discipline, patience, confidence, and other qualities that are self-taught. So it is with writers and all creative artists. If their values are solid their work is likely to be solid.
Joe Lee, medical director of the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation Youth Continuum, applies this perspective to the task of raising children. In Recovering My Kid: Parenting Young Adults in Treatment and Beyond, he writes:
These days, so many of the parenting tips are based on superficial matters. The conversations are about finding the right activities, having enough activities, staying cool as parents, learning to talk on your child’s level, and the like…. I emphasize that parents need to invest in their family culture and maintain it over time, much like they would invest over the long-term in a savings account or a college fund. Only then will the resources be available in a family’s time of need.
Molding character often calls for the slow, steady acquisition of skills and insights. And this — unlike dispensing tips — is the work of a lifetime.